COACHING
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Never & Always
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Never and always strike me as two very powerful words. They can be very
positive when preceded by “I” and “we” and very
negative when preceded by “you” and “they”. Those
“you” and “they” statements frequently generate
a lot of finger pointing and blame. “You always leave the seat up.”
“You never empty the dishwasher.”
I remember performance reviews with ratings of Always, Sometimes, Occasionally and Never. What’s that about? If you said that someone always answered their phone within 3 rings, someone else would be right there to tell you that one time that they didn’t. And when you said an employee never assisted others, that employee would be right there telling you every example of when they did help someone. Sometimes and Occasionally were the safe ratings. Always and Never seemed to draw out the fight in people.
Always and Never are very hard to live up to. When you say, “I
will always be there for you”, that’s a huge commitment. Sometimes
things happen that are out of your control and you simply can’t
be there. And I’m sure you’ve heard people say, “Never
say never”. It seems like the minute you do, you have to eat those
words.
Here are a couple of challenges for you:
1) Make a “never” list and an “always” list (ie: I would never let my teenager vacation in Cancun. Or, I always drive the speed limit.) Are you able to live up to these statements or are they causing conflict for you?
2) Listen to yourself over the next few days and see how you use “never” and “always”. Are they serving you? Are you really able to follow through?
3) If you find yourself using never and always, what are the chances you can achieve those commitments?
As always,
Jo Anne
If you have any interest in reflexology, check out the new page on my
website
www.riseandshinetoday.com
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Jo Anne's Journey - 2007
- 17- Reflexology at Marquette Senior
Living Center - 18 & 19 Benevon Training
with the Red Cross
in Baltimore
- 1 – 5: Tampa, FLA
- 12 Lincoln's Birthday
- 14 Inforum Coffee Klatch
Reflexology Presentation - 16 & 17 Reflexology at ReMax in Boyne City, MI
- 22 Washington's Birthday
- 16-19 Traverse City, MI - State Athletic Directors Conference
- 28- April 7 SPRING BREAK!! Hilton Head here we come!
- 29 PCAM Annual Conference
“Coaching Into Greatness”
- Hilton Head, SC through the 7th
- 16 Be Red Cross Ready Breakfast
- 6 Facilitating a Panel of HR
Professionals - The Evolution
of HR – MSU-SHRM Chapter - 8 – Spa Night @ Cutter’s Point
3320 E Lake Lansing Rd # H
East Lansing, MI 48823
6:30 p.m. – 8:30 p.m.
Reflexology - $1 per minute
- 12 Lansing Area Coaches
Sustaining Your Business
Teleseminar in conjunction
with Leslie Charles - 20 & 21 Across the Curriculum
Summer Institute:
Part I: WHAT DO YOU WANT MORE OF IN YOUR LIFE AND HOW DO YOU NAVIGATE THOSE DIFFICULT CONVERSATIONS IN ORDER TO GET IT
Part II: SELLING YOURSELF AND
ASSESSING OTHERS
(Resume Writing and Interviewing Tips)
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Sports Spouses - The Challenge of Being a Coach's Wife
Being a coach’s wife takes a special person. You automatically become the CEO of your household and family. You are the “glue” that holds it all together. When it’s time to move, you make all the arrangements. When it comes to dealing with the kids issues at school, you deal with the teachers. When it comes to soothing your spouse’s bruised ego after a loss, you’re the one who’s there for them.
When recently working with a group of coaches’ wives and asking the top three to five challenges of being a coach’s wife, the number one reason was loneliness followed by work/life balance, limited family time, lack of communication and dealing with change. Sound familiar?
Being a coach’s wife may be fulfilling enough for some women, but not for others. That certainly doesn’t mean that they don’t love their husbands or that they’re not supportive. It may just mean that they also need to be fulfilled as a person themselves. By working with a coach, women would have an opportunity to find out what it is that fulfills them. In addition, they can share experiences and build camaraderie.
Coaching is an opportunity for the wives to identify their own goals and issues, develop a plan for obtaining them and be held accountable.
For more information, log on to www.riseandshinetoday.com (Group Coaching) or contact Jo Anne Froelich, Personal and Professional Coach at 517-202-0553.
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